Over time as we get comfortable in dating, we end up picking up nasty habits that can put people right off us or just make bad first impressions. Obviously, we don’t want this and I’ll be talking about a few of the habits that I wish I had worked my way out of sooner.Whilst these dating habits might not apply to you, have a think about things that you do in dates that might be faux pas or just plain bad manners.
Rethink Your Goals
Don’t get too obsessed with the idea of finding a partner. when you fixate upon something you start to create unhealthy habits around that thing. you shouldn’t feel like you need a partner to complete yourself, you should be whole on your own.A relationship is only good if both people don’t -need- the other to survive. When you both have independence and choose to be together on purpose, the relationship is much healthier. Don’t obsess over getting a partner and just enjoy your dates instead.
Don’t Chase After The Wrong People
When you are looking for a date, make sure you are looking for the right type of person. Whilst it can be fun to date pretty much anyone and see what happens, when you are purposely looking for someone to be with for a long time, you probably aren’t going to find them at a dive bar. All you’ll have to show is a terrible headache the next morning and a lot less money.Looking for the right people means going to the right places and figuring out what you really want in your partner.
There’s a whole lot of people out there that just won’t be for you. On the flip side, the same is true of you. Don’t get stuck up on people that don’t want to date you, because they probably aren’t the right one for you anyway.Caring less about what people think of you is great, because you can act how you like, have more fun and not feel bad if someone doesn’t like something you do. It’s on them for feeling bad, not you.
Do What You Want
You don’t have to do traditionally couple-y things with someone else. Take a friend or hell, go by yourself. If you want to go see a film at the cinema, nobody is stopping you just because you aren’t going with a partner.
Listen To Excuses
When someone says they have something that means it isn’t a good reason to date them, believe them. Trying to power through it and trying to fix these people just won’t help, because they are determined to stay how they are. If someone is telling you not to date them because they are high maintenance, neurotic, ‘not ready’, too poor, whatever… It’s just because they don’t really want to be with you and can’t tell you that.If you meet someone you really want to be with, you make it work, rather than relying on bad excuses.
Don’t stalk people online!That really says enough, but I’ll elaborate. If you get the online handles of someone you are dating from a social networking site, dating site or just by googling their name, stop yourself. You’ll unnerve yourself if you see lots of people talking to your date who might also be trying to date themselves. It’s also super creepy when you start talking to them about something that your date hasn’t talked to you about before. They are likely to get out of there as soon as possible, because that isn’t healthy. Wait for a while before bothering with social networking. Even better, stop using social networking altogether, it is a waste of time and energy.
Change Your Expectations
Marriage material people just don’t exist. When you are dating, you shouldn’t be analysing everyone you meet to see if they are The One. People grow to become the perfect person for you, rather than existing in that state already. Focus on having fun and enjoying your dates rather than analysing whether they would be the best marriage material.